{"id":355,"date":"2018-11-21T14:39:48","date_gmt":"2018-11-21T14:39:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.doulike.com\/blog\/?p=355"},"modified":"2023-01-02T14:06:41","modified_gmt":"2023-01-02T14:06:41","slug":"how-to-write-a-good-online-dating-first-message-to-a-guy-tips-examples","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.doulike.com\/blog\/online-dating\/how-to-write-a-good-online-dating-first-message-to-a-guy-tips-examples\/","title":{"rendered":"How to write a good online dating first message to a guy \u2013 Tips &amp; Examples"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_69_1 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-custom ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title \" >Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 eztoc-toggle-hide-by-default' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/www.doulike.com\/blog\/online-dating\/how-to-write-a-good-online-dating-first-message-to-a-guy-tips-examples\/#Say_Hi\" title=\"Say Hi\">Say Hi<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/www.doulike.com\/blog\/online-dating\/how-to-write-a-good-online-dating-first-message-to-a-guy-tips-examples\/#Tell_what_you_like_about_his_profile\" title=\"Tell what you like about his profile\">Tell what you like about his profile<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/www.doulike.com\/blog\/online-dating\/how-to-write-a-good-online-dating-first-message-to-a-guy-tips-examples\/#Tell_about_yourself\" title=\"Tell about yourself\">Tell about yourself<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/www.doulike.com\/blog\/online-dating\/how-to-write-a-good-online-dating-first-message-to-a-guy-tips-examples\/#Ask_a_question\" title=\"Ask a question\">Ask a question<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/www.doulike.com\/blog\/online-dating\/how-to-write-a-good-online-dating-first-message-to-a-guy-tips-examples\/#Dont_be_afraid_of_writing_first\" title=\"Don&#8217;t be afraid of writing first\">Don&#8217;t be afraid of writing first<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/www.doulike.com\/blog\/online-dating\/how-to-write-a-good-online-dating-first-message-to-a-guy-tips-examples\/#Example_1_Value-added_answer-intriguing_conversation\" title=\"Example 1 (Value-added answer-intriguing conversation)\">Example 1 (Value-added answer-intriguing conversation)<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/www.doulike.com\/blog\/online-dating\/how-to-write-a-good-online-dating-first-message-to-a-guy-tips-examples\/#Example_2_Connecting_On_Common_Ground\" title=\"Example 2 (Connecting On Common Ground)\">Example 2 (Connecting On Common Ground)<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-8\" href=\"https:\/\/www.doulike.com\/blog\/online-dating\/how-to-write-a-good-online-dating-first-message-to-a-guy-tips-examples\/#Example_3_Inspiring_an_answer\" title=\"Example 3 (Inspiring an answer)\">Example 3 (Inspiring an answer)<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<p>At DoULike, we need to work with more than 50,000 messages a day and among those, a considerable number of texts are unopened \u2018First Messages\u2019.<\/p>\n<p>Also, the questions we most frequently receive include \u2018what to message a guy first\u2019 and \u2018Online dating first message woman to man\u2019.<\/p>\n<p>How to send that perfect first text that shows your interest without portraying you like \u2018asking for it\u2019 has always been a catch for all <a href=\"https:\/\/www.doulike.com\">the online dating<\/a> women.<\/p>\n<p>Here is a complete checklist on how to start a conversation with a guy online dating crafted from our 15+ years of first-hand industry experience.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Say_Hi\"><\/span>Say Hi<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>\u201cHey handsome\u201d, &#8220;Hey you\u201d, \u201chhiiiii\u201d, \u201cHey\u201d, \u201cFeeling naughty?\u201d: these are by statistics comes at the top in blocking the conversation chain.<\/p>\n<p><em>Does it mean we should not start with an addressing word at all?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Of course, you should.<\/p>\n<p><strong>You should start with a dignified and full-spelled addressing. Calling Robin simply by \u2018Hey Robin\u2019 is quite good-to-go.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u2018How\u2019s it going\u2019, \u2018what\u2019s up\u2019 and \u2018howdy\u2019 are top three addressing in terms of response rate.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t try to call with an interesting term or nickname you have found while checking him out on another social profile at the first text itself. It might sound a bit cheesy.<\/li>\n<li>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Tell_what_you_like_about_his_profile\"><\/span>Tell what you like about his profile<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>You are texting someone means most likely you have found something interesting or similar to your liking with him.<\/p>\n<p><em>Great.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Let him know that. If sports and sea interest you both, start with asking what\u2019s his take on beach volleyball in mid-November.<\/p>\n<p>Starting a conversation with his pet is another great way of keeping company.<\/li>\n<li>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Tell_about_yourself\"><\/span>Tell about yourself<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Okay, this point might bring some obvious dilemma. Will I not seem \u2018too full of myself\u2019 if I start bragging about myself from the first text itself?<\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s the catch.<\/p>\n<p>Let him know about yourself; don\u2019t brag.<\/p>\n<p>Instead of stating what you have done so far in life as if you\u2019re sitting in front of an interviewer, share with him your small experiences associated with your job and lifestyle.<\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s an example:<\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cYeah, it takes out 14 hours of each day of me. But when the little puppies and cutie kittens go back to home healthy, it justified the sleepless nights&#8230; Last year as well, during my country tour, uff it\u2019s an unforgettable memory how our team saved a hard of jungle-cattle&#8230;\u201d<\/em><\/li>\n<li>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Ask_a_question\"><\/span>Ask a question<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Sending an online dating first message to a guy largely revolves around &#8216;The Three Sentence Rule&#8217;. It says, an ideal first conversation temple should go like:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Personalized greeting (not too personal either)<\/li>\n<li>Compliment or comment on common interest<\/li>\n<li>Asking an intriguing question<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Your question can go 2 ways:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Generalist funny interrogation<\/strong>\u201cI\u2019ve heard somewhere that responsible people with a cute smile like Salmon more than Pork. Do you agree or do you agree?\u201d<\/li>\n<li><strong>Personalised thought-provoking question<\/strong><br \/>\n<em><br \/>\n\u201cI\u2019ve seen that you\u2019ve learned and tough Japanese as well during your 3-years stay at Japan&#8230; How the feeling was being back in Colombo again?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Dont_be_afraid_of_writing_first\"><\/span>Don&#8217;t be afraid of writing first<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>A major reason behind unattended matches is the majority of the women feel shy to initiate the conversation.<\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s is a list of most practical tips for women who want to take the first move:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>You can use our blogging section and Advanced Search Filter to get to know which type of men is perfect for you and remotely filter them. By answering these, the answer to \u2018how to message a guy first\u2019 will become automatically easier.<\/li>\n<li>Whatever you write, write with proper grammar and correct spelling. Irrespective of men or women, it\u2019s equally an instant turn-off factor.<\/li>\n<li>Avoid directly complimenting his physical features at the start. Better to compliment his intelligence and subtle virtues.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Just a few days back, we\u2019ve asked 400+ registered DoULike users why they are on DoULike and what keeps them to loyal to us. They said, free account, high security, and ample options and quick customer support are top 4 expertises of ours.<\/p>\n<p>Then we asked, what are the things we can improve ourselves? They said 2 things. First, to present a <a style=\"color: blue;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.doulike.com\/blog\/online-dating\/the-best-20-questions-to-ask-on-your-first-online-date-examples-of-answers\/\">questionnaire for women to ask on first online date<\/a> and secondly, they have asked us to add a section of online dating first message to a guy example.<\/p>\n<p>So today, we\u2019ve brought the best three examples for you:<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Example_1_Value-added_answer-intriguing_conversation\"><\/span>Example 1 (Value-added answer-intriguing conversation)<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><em>Hey Johnson,<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>After so many days I\u2019ve finally come across a profile which is worth halting; with some content which is indeed thought-provoking. We don\u2019t know each other but I don\u2019t think there\u2019s any harm in trying to.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>By the way, I\u2019ve seen that you have been to Bali last December. I was there as well approximately at the same time. What\u2019s your take on their Jet Packs and Jet Bikes, Nusa Dua?<\/em><\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Example_2_Connecting_On_Common_Ground\"><\/span>Example 2 (Connecting On Common Ground)<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><em>What\u2019s up?<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>If nothing qualifies to be enough intriguing topic to discuss on, 5 sweet pugs of yours and 3 Labrador Retrievers of mine definitely are! Those furs and those eyes&#8230; I can die after seeing these&#8230; how old are they by the way?<\/em><\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Example_3_Inspiring_an_answer\"><\/span>Example 3 (Inspiring an answer)<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><em>I heard somewhere that people who work in technology and science hardly get any time to write aesthetic pieces. So, did it really take a lot to break the stereotype?<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>At DoULike, we need to work with more than 50,000 messages a day and among those, a considerable number of texts are unopened \u2018First Messages\u2019. Also, the questions we most frequently receive include \u2018what to message a guy first\u2019 and \u2018Online dating first message woman to man\u2019. How to send that perfect first text that shows your interest without portraying you like \u2018asking for it\u2019 has always been a catch for all the online dating women. Here is a complete checklist on how to start a conversation with a guy online dating crafted from our 15+ years of first-hand industry experience. Say Hi \u201cHey handsome\u201d, &#8220;Hey you\u201d, \u201chhiiiii\u201d, \u201cHey\u201d, \u201cFeeling naughty?\u201d: these are by statistics comes at the top in blocking the conversation chain. Does it mean we should not start with an addressing word at all? Of course, you should. You should start with a dignified and full-spelled addressing. Calling Robin simply by \u2018Hey Robin\u2019 is quite good-to-go. \u2018How\u2019s it going\u2019, \u2018what\u2019s up\u2019 and \u2018howdy\u2019 are top three addressing in terms of response rate. 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