Usually, we have some trouble finding what to say or what questions to ask when it comes to online dating. On the one hand, you’ve just met a new person and you want to get to know them better. But on the other hand, you feel a little bit confused and embarrassed, and you might have forgotten everything you prepped for this conversation.
This list of the best questions to ask when online dating will help you avoid awkward moments and bring you more confidence. Moreover, we’ve prepared answers to these date questions, so can get inspired by some ideas for your own answers.
We try to avoid typical first date questions like “Where are you from?” or “Where do you work?”. You don’t need help with that. But we have some special online dating questions that can reveal the essence of a person or determine whether they are your soulmate.
1. Why did you decide to use an online dating site?
When you think of any good questions to ask while online dating, try this one. You need to know why this person here and what they expect from your communication. Is it just entertainment or are they in for serious searching for a long-term relationship? Often, these reasons go back to the events from the past. You can also share your experience and check whether you have something in common.
“… Oh yes. Sometimes I think why I’m here, why I can’t find a girl in real life, but then I begin to recall all my misfortunes in the past … It’s really hard to forget, I still feel all that pain. I’m still not ready for a new relationship fully, but I need someone who can treat me right and be my close friend. Maybe you can be the one with whom I’ll be able to experience love again…“
2. What places did you visit and what do you want to visit?
It can seem that it’s a typical question, but it can tell you a lot about the person. Their attitude toward traveling will show you whether they want to explore something new and are willing for new adventures. If you don’t lead a sedentary life I think you might want to add this point to the list of questions to ask an online date.
“… I have visited 5 countries: France, Germany, Hungary, Austria, Italy. But I don’t think that I’ve seen entire France by simply visiting Paris. There is so much more to this region! Also, I travel a lot through my county, especial in mountains. I’m fond of exploring our world. With every trip, I understand how big it is and how much I haven’t seen yet. I want to go to Iceland very much…”
3. Do you have some achievements that you can share with me?
After that question, you can understand not only where this person has significant gains, but also if they are persistent and hardworking. Moreover, you might have some similar achievements, so you’ll have a lot to talk about.
“…Two years ago I finished the French language course and got a certificate. Also recently I got a Bachelor’s degree and now I’m going to get a Master’s degree. Last summer, I was a volunteer at a local summer school where I was helping to teach Math to children of 8th grade. I try to lead an active social life, it brings a lot of advantages…”
4. Are you a romantic? Can you describe your perfect date?
These are quite interesting first date questions. You can find out whether the person is romantic or pragmatic and take notes on how they imagine a real date. You can make it happen at your first meeting in person.
“…I imagine my date maybe in a park or in a forest, and there is a river or lavender field nearby. We have a beautiful picnic with cheese, baguette, fruit, and wine. Later, we watch a sunset and take photos on polaroid…”
5. What are your favorite books, songs, movies?
This question doesn’t belong to a type of online dating question to ask because it’s not about life stance or its meaning. It’s more like a casual question about one’s interests and these topics always cause extensive discussion. Also, you can give each other some recommendations on what to read, listen to, or watch.
“…Frankly, I like to read more than to watch movies, but it doesn’t mean I don’t watch them. My favorite writer is Ray Bradbury and “Wine Dandelion” is my favorite book. Also, recently I’ve read Stephen King “The Shining”. My favorite movie is “Léon: The Professional”. As for my music tastes, I can listen to different kinds of music. If it’s a good song, the genre doesn’t matter for me. Also, there’s one thing about me that surprises most of my friends: I like to listen to classical music…”
6. Do you like animals and what is your favorite?
These are very cute first date questions. He can show if a person is kind and if they think about others.
“…I love animals, but I will never have a pet. I think that all animals have to live in nature and we can’t disturb them, but unfortunately, we do. I try to help local kennel and I’m against circus and zoos. My favorite animal is a giraffe. I’m always impressed when I see it…”
7. What is your favorite food?
It isn’t even a question, it’s big a topic! You can not only write a list of your favorite dishes but also share some recipes or tell funny stories about your experience. Recall the time when you tasted the most exquisite dish in your life, or when you cooked a pumpkin pie with your friends for the first time. It’s going to be fun!
“…To tell the truth, I like almost all the dishes that I have ever tried. It’s easier to say what I dislike. I don’t like liver, blue cheese, and crayfish. It’s what I recall now, maybe something else. I like to cook in my kitchen very much, especially baking and making desserts. Last time I cooked Cinnamon rolls, all my friends were excited…”
8. What dreams do you have?
As for me, this question is not about some purchases or wealth, like buying Chanel slippers. It’s about your dreams and goals you want to attain by working hard for it. This question will show if a person is a dreamer and whether they understand the real sense of life.
“…I want to move to another country. I want to go to Holland or England very much. But I need much more money than I have now to make it happen. Also, I want to go to the sea with my mum. I know she wants it very much and I want to do such a present on her birthday…”
9. Do you have some guilty pleasures?
I think everyone has things they like but don’t feel proud of that. It can be movies, TV programs, or something you like to do when no one is around. They might not be particularly elegant or highly intellectual, but these little tweaks are a part of who you are, so you might want to mention them.
“…Oh, haha, of course, I have such pleasures. I like dancing when I’m having a shower. I literally can dance when washing my head. Also when I blow-drying I imagine like I’m a big superstar and blow dryer is my microphone. I still love tv-series “H20 Just Add Water” and re-watch “Twilight” every year…”
10. Can you describe your perfect day that you remember?
You can see what personal values and character traits they appreciate. It can be spending time with relatives, spending time admiring beautiful nature or something else. All these things can tell you more about their personality.
“…I had such a day earlier this year on my best friend’s birthday. We went to the city center for coffee with burgers. We laughed, took crazy photos and just shared our future plans with each other. Then we went to the park and suddenly it began to rain. So we stood under the tree and enjoyed this perfect summer moment…”
11. How do you usually spend your weekend?
This question will also show whether you have something in common. I don’t say that you have to share all the interests, but in general, you can be both active or passive. And it’s quite interesting to compare yourself with others.
“…Usually, I have 2 days of rest and I try to divide them into 2 parts. On Saturday, I help my parents, clean my flat, and go shopping, whereas, on Sunday, I spend time with my friends. Also, I try to be more active: I run, ride a bike or walk in the park… ”
- What qualities do you appreciate in other people?
I think it’s a self-explanatory question that doesn’t need clarification. In addition, I can say that your partner will be looking for these qualities in you as well. If they won’t find anything, they might lose interest in you. But first, you need to determine whether you appreciate the same things to make sure the other person’s values do not contravene your principles.
“…I hate egoists and know-it-all smart alecs. I always seek inner beauty. If a person is beautiful inside, they are also beautiful outside. Also, I always keep in mind this rule: a man is known by the company he keeps…”
13. Are you an active person?
This question will give you an idea about a person’s lifestyle – whether they lead an active and healthy life or not.
“…I think I’m a quite active person. When the weather is good I usually try to run, have a big bike trip, walk in parks. When the weather is colder I go to my dance club or to the swimming pool…”
14. Can you describe your best friends?
This is one of the best online dating questions to ask because it can potentially tell you a lot about the other person. Remember the rule, “a man is known by the company he keeps”? Now it’s time to use it in practice.
“…Frankly, I have only one best friend. But I generally don’t like to stick labels on people like best friends, or just friends, or whatever. I appreciate my friend because I can always rely on her, tell her my secrets, share my dreams and feeling. And most importantly, I can be myself with her…”
15. Can you talk about something for hours? What are your hobbies?
It’s always interesting to learn about the hobbies of another person, to know what they are interested in and what they really can talk about for hours. These online dating questions are great for sparkling lively conversations, provided that you do share some interests with this person.
“…I think it could be films, books and trips. I like reading and watching films. I want to read so many books and watch so many movies, but I’m afraid there isn’t enough life for that. And also I’m fond of trips, I can talk about my travel stories and listen to others’ travel stories literally for hours…”
16. What is the last problem that really disturbs you?
You can ask about things that disturb this person to find out their attitude to life, see how they deal with challenges and react to negativity.
“…It was just recently, I had my breakfast and switched on the TV. And I saw a report about paper cups. It appears that almost all such cups have plastic cover inside (otherwise, your cup would get wet as soon as you pour your coffee in it) and due to that, it takes 20 years to recycle the paper cup. Some people try to gather these cups in order to make new things from them like copybooks, but of course, it’s not enough. Since that morning, I’ve been going to a coffee house with my cup…”
17. What is your religion?
For some people, it’s a very important question: they can go out only with a person of the same faith. Others just want to make sure that their partners don’t have any objection about a different faith. So everyone can use this question to find out exactly what they want.
“…I’m a Catholic and I have nothing against other faiths. And I hate all these religious wars. As for me, it’s stupid and cruel…”
18. Do you have a wishlist?
When thinking about good online dating questions, give this one a try. Wishlist is a list of small dreams (like a new red dress, a book. etc.), some cute things that make us happier. It’s always interesting to learn more about another person’s dreams. Besides, you could be the one to make these small dreams come true.
“…Yes, I have such a small list. I want a new phone case, because mine is very old, and a T-shirt with the words ”Avocado Please” because avocado is my everything. That’s all that I can recall now…”
- Do you like theatres and concerts? What was your last one?
It’s always important to know the cultural rate of a person. Also, you can discuss your favorite performances or recommend something new to each other. These are pretty good questions for online dating.
“…I like theatres and concerts very much, but I enjoy theatres more. When I’m in a theatre I always think about how people can create such incredible performance and as for me, there aren’t bad performances in the theatre. The last one was “Romeo and Juliet” at the Globe Theater, I saw it 3 times!…”
- What inspires you?
It can be absolutely everything.
“…Of course, I get inspired by books, films, and music. But what really overwhelms me is walking to art museums. I can’t even explain this! I especially like museums with the largest masterpieces…”
Phew! It was our 20 first date questions to ask online. I hope that someone read to the end and if yes, let us know in the comments below! Wish you good luck on your first online date!